You see, there is a post going around Facebook (FB is where I do a lot of my business):
This, coupled with some emails and posts from other vendors about supporting ONLY working from home moms has made me lose it. Are you really ONLY supposed to buy from people supporting a family? Is that really fair?
I'm sad to say that I am not a mom. My Husband and I have been married for 2 years (on the 26th) and have been trying to conceive for our entire marriage. I'm not a mom, but it isn't by choice. I love kids. I chose to teach them. Then, I lost my job because education is the first thing that gets cut when money runs low. Sad but true. My sister, the photographer, started to encourage me to make props for her business. She'd tell me that hat she wanted, I'd make it. So, I started to help support my hubby and myself by making props.
Is it really fair to say that you won't do business with me because I don't have children to feed? When you buy from me, you help me pay my bills, you help me eat, you help me visit the doctor to figure out what is going wrong inside me preventing me from meeting your "mom requirement". You help me have less stress because I don't have to worry how I'm going to make rent, or car payments. You help me stress less because I know I might be able to afford the expensive, non-insured, treatments I need to be something that you probably take measures to prevent: pregnant.
I love making little hats, wraps and headbands. It makes me want to be a mom even more. I put a lot of love into every item I make. It really hurts me on a personal level that someone has said these things. I know most of the photographers and prop makers out there are moms. I know that I'm a minority. But, I'm just trying to get by like you.
Like I said before, I know I'm sensitive about the mom thing. I also don't know how long this post will survive. It may be a bit too personal.
EDIT: I'm in no way saying that the circulating post is "slamming" those of us that aren't moms. I don't think it was meant that way at all. I was more upset by a certain vendor advocating to only buy from Mom run businesses. It really hurt my feelings to know that others really feel justified to hold infertility against someone. I think supporting small businesses, regardless of who runs them, is AWESOME! I fully admit that this is a sensitive issue for me, and for many like me. I also think it's important to bring awareness to the emotional, financial and physical issues infertility has on those that deal with it. I think it's important for those that don't suffer with infertility to understand how innocent comments can be hurtful, even when those that get hurt try not to take it that way.



































